“Rabbi, what is that on your wrist?”

“It’s a Fitbit.”

“Why do you wear it?”

“It tracks how many steps I take each day, the quantity and quality of my sleep, and other important pieces of information.”

“C’mon Rabbi, sounds like shtick to me.  Do you really need that?  What does it do for you?  You already know you should be active each day and that you need to get enough sleep, so just do what you are supposed to, why do you need to wear something?”

I thought about his question and it struck me as compelling.  We know what we need to do in life, so why not just do it?  Why involve outside “shtick?”  Isn’t it just a distraction?

And then I remembered an excellent quote from the great management expert Peter Drucker: “What gets measured gets managed.”

“The value of wearing a Fitbit,” I told my friend, “is that it holds me accountable to achieve my commitment and forces me to confront the reality of falling short, rather than at the end of each day bluffing or fooling myself about what had in fact transpired that day.”

Spiritual Growth

Across the world from Professor Peter Drucker lived another management expert, only he specialized in personal management. Rav Kalonymus Kalman Shapira, Hy”d, also known as the Piaseczno Rebbe, was a Chassidic Rebbe in Poland who served as the rabbi of the Warsaw Ghetto and, after surviving the uprising, was later shot dead by the Nazis in the Trawniki labor camp. Among his many talents, he had incredible insight into human psychology.

In his spiritual diary called Tzav V’Ziruz he writes the following entry (#15):

If you have been able to draw up personal rules for your spiritual growth, consider this a success.  But if you have not, then either you have not devoted your life to personal growth or you are blind to your own failures and successes.

Because the spiritual seeker who channels his efforts to his inner world will inevitably be faced with difficulty and distraction – not only external ones like supporting his family but also in his inner world such as indolence, negative tendencies, destructive character traits, and so forth – and because the spiritual seeker is constantly involved in this inner battle, sometimes winning and sometimes losing, he will inevitably come to conclusions: which strategies work for him and which ones bring out his weakness.

So someone who cannot draw such conclusions is not engaged in the battle – he neither wins nor loses.  Or else, he is unaware of both his inner weaknesses and strong points.  (Translation from Yehoshua Starret.)

Essentially, the Piaseczno Rebbe says that when it comes to our character, our personal growth and becoming the best version of ourselves – what gets measured, gets managed.  One cannot claim to care about growing spiritually and fail to devise a plan or a strategy, set goals, and, most importantly, identify how progress will be measured.

It is one thing to say you want to work on having greater patience and being slower to anger and another to articulate a plan for “how.”  Does the plan answer questions such as: What triggers your anger? Why do you lose patience?  How will you learn to react differently?  How will you measure and track if you are improving in this area?

It is one thing to say you want to work on improving your davening and another to design a strategy to actually grow in your prayer experiences.  Have you considered what is your biggest challenge connecting in prayer?  When has prayer uplifted you in the past and what elements contributed to that positive experience and result?  How will you improve?  Will you read a book on prayer?  Listen to classes on prayer? What are the metrics you will use to measure your growth in davening?

The difference between a desire to grow being just lip service and empty words versus the beginning of real change is designing our personalized Spiritual Fitbit – a Spiritbit.

Here are a few things to consider when programming your Spiritbit:

  • Limit – Identify one or two areas you want to work on at a time. Taking on too much at one time makes it overwhelming and intimidating, making it almost impossible to make real progress.
  • Be Real – Be realistic in setting the goals. Don’t pledge to make radical changes that are impossible to achieve and unsustainable to maintain.
  • Plan – The Rambam writes that to authentically accomplish teshuvah, vidui, articulating what we have done wrong, must be done out loud. Only by saying or writing what went wrong and what we will do to repair and improve in the future can we avoid bluffing ourselves or our way through this process.  Putting our plan and goals into words causes us to be thoughtful, strategic, honest, and gives us a reference to measure against.
  • Accountability – Involve a family member, friend, or confidant in holding you accountable for doing what you say you are going to do. Choose someone trustworthy, kind, and who is more interested in helping you grow than in catching you fail.
  • Schedule – Most businesses and companies have employee reviews. A good review seeks to validate and accentuate the positive while identifying and isolating areas that need improvement.  Without scheduled reviews, it is unlikely time would be taken to reflect and to plan.  Put in your schedule designated times to review your progress.
  • Celebrate – Make space to celebrate your progress and growth. Be proud and use that pride to be motivated to grow further.
  • Start Again – Don’t stop just because you accomplished your particular goal. Set more goals and pursue them with the same resolve that brought you success the first time.

Get more sleep, lose weight, have less anger, stop feeling jealous, improve davening, be more scrupulous in following Jewish law, set aside time daily for Torah study – whatever the area you want to work on, this can absolutely be your year.

But it won’t happen if you don’t design a Spiritbit, a mechanism to be honest and to track results.  Wear your Spiritbit and finally become the best version of yourself.


NLEResources.com thanks Rabbi Goldberg for allowing us to share this insightful article that appears on his blog. Rabbi Efrem Goldberg is the Senior Rabbi of the Boca Raton Synagogue (BRS), a rapidly-growing congregation of over 650 families and over 1,000 children in Boca Raton, Florida. In 2010 Rabbi Goldberg was recognized as one of South Florida’s Most Influential Jewish Leaders. He serves as Co-Chair of the Orthodox Rabbinical Board’s Va’ad Ha’Kashrus, as Director of the Rabbinical Council of America’s South Florida Regional Beis Din for Conversion, and as Posek of the Boca Raton Mikvah. He is also on the Board of Directors of the Jewish Federation of South Palm Beach County, Hillel Day School, Torah Academy of Boca Raton, and Friends of the Israel Defense Forces. Additionally, Rabbi Goldberg serves as Vice President of the Rabbinical Council of America and as Chairman of the Orthodox Union Legacy Group and is a member of the AIPAC National Council. Rabbi Goldberg grew up in Teaneck, NJ, attended Yeshivat Kerem B’Yavneh in Israel for two years, graduated from Yeshiva University with a B.A. in psychology, attended Ner Le’Elef and received Semicha from the Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary, Yeshiva University. In 2008, he completed the Northwestern University Kellogg School of Management Advanced Executive Program. Rabbi Goldberg is married to Yocheved and has seven children, Racheli, Atara, Leora, Tamar, Estee, Temima and Shai.

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